The messages we receive from our parents are stored upon them as if etched in stone. We internalize these messages and accept them without question as we mature because in the child?s mind, mommy and daddy – who are our ultimate authority figures – said it is so!
When a little girl has a father who is physically present but emotionally absent and does not provide her with the love and nurturing she needs, she will grow up with a big empty space in her heart where that love should have been. The message – although unspoken – tells her that she is not important and not deserving of love.
This little girl will subconsciously seek a man with her father?s rejecting characteristics – so she can relive her initial relationship – and this time she will win.
When a little boy grows up with a weak and dependent mother who increasingly leans on him in his father?s absence, he is put in an adult situation inappropriate to his years.
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